Re: Helping yourself feel safe
Posted: Fri Jan 09, 2015 11:53 am
I like how you use a scent that's not connected to your past to help you feel safe. I have SPD, and scent is the only thing that is intense enough to either trigger or dispel panic immediately. I buy cleaning products that one of my Group Homes used. I was in foster homes and group homes both before and after this specific one, but this one I felt safe in. I never felt safe before that home, or ever again after I turned 18 and had to move. Still, even though they are just cleaning products, I only smelled those ones there...when I feel out of control, I clean my house, and I remember that feeling of safety. It helps a lotCouragetoday wrote:Hi everyone,
I struggle with feeling safe as well in dark moments. I too use the wrapped up tight in a blanket with a stuffie technique! I also make a point to lay somewhere other than my bedroom as this feels safer to me.
I also gently ask myself to observe 10 breaths before doing or acting on anything and it amazes me how at times this helps calms things, even if only for a moment.
I also have been using essential oils. I especially love lavender. I have no ties to this from the past so as I am smelling it, I remind myself that I have to be safe, in the present, as this smell was not a part of my past. (I wear a small piece of jewelry that carries this scent).
Living with DID, sometimes I find it helpful to speak individually to each part, reminding each one that we are in the present, and safe. Or, I ask them if they would prefer to leave and go to their already established safe places.
I too have a list of strategies written down in a list on my phone so they are always on me. It's so easy to forget in a moment (or long moments) of struggles. I'd be lying if I said my strategies are especially effective- it doesn't make anything go away, but sometimes helps make it through the moment(s).
Thanks for the thread - always in need of different coping strategies and look forward to learning from each of you.
