What I love and don't quite trust about Pete Walkers book COMPLEX PTSD from surviving to thriving

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Re: What I love and don't quite trust about Pete Walkers book COMPLEX PTSD from surviving to thriving

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Hello dancingfish,

Lovely to see your name appear. I found your post very moving. That kind of thoughtfulness, sensitivity and solidarity is what makes this site and the people here contributing so precious. Thank you.

Dear EH,

Your posts resonate so strongly for me. In particular your observations about the unhelpful appropriation of techniques not suited to your needs and their harm within a long period of therapy - that really struck a chord. I am so sorry that that relationship was so repressive and caused you so much toxic pain, shame, anxiety and self doubt. It has sparked more than a few uncomfortable realisations about my own 11 year therapy. So much of what you said about your experience rang true for me. Not all, but I definitely need to reflect of this some more. Really really happy to read you are feeling in a much better space, having found some much better suited therapy! (((( EH ))))

Hello everyone else
Every contribution from each individual in this thread has been immensely helpful and validating. Thank you all for that. I want to engage more, but it's a little like wading thru treacle over here, ( :roll: ) so I am very grateful for all your combined sensitive articulacy and clarity. x

With much much warm caring,

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Re: What I love and don't quite trust about Pete Walkers book COMPLEX PTSD from surviving to thriving

Post by there »

I've arrived late to this discussion, or maybe there's no time limit.
I read some of what's published on Pete Walker's website after somebody from here told me they were reading his book.
My most recent and (mostly decent) T did tell me I have cPTSD. She's an LicSW, not a psychiatrist. Honestly, in my experience, to some extent, the higher up the academic qualifications go, the more distance from the truth of survivor's lives.
I'll give him some credit for being a survivor of abuse and from that, trying to help anyone .
I've experienced a LoT of abuse from 'mental health professionals' who generously donated to my cPTSD storehouse. :lol: And that's a mark of my healing that I can laugh at some of the painful wounds. The wounds or inflicted were inflicted through systematic Power over tactics, including social isolation, denial of my stated truth, denial of my abilities personhood, to name a few.
What's important to me now is recognizing and building my own authority in my life, of my life and my truth.
It seems Pete Walker could have used more truth in his book. For instance, he could have, if you didn't, stated that his book book has inherent limitations, and reflects his own particular experience of abuse.
What I hear in this thread is that Pete Walker, and unnamed other 'mental health professionals' further abuse survivors by exploiting them. They exploit survivors through something like a form of cultural appropriation.
Another thing that I won't get into too much, is that I live in a place where Dr.Judith Herman, and Dr. Besser van der Kolk instituted their work. Through programs started by them and based on their work, I've had both services and disservices.
All women are beautiful. Period.
I deserve better than survival.
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Re: What I love and don't quite trust about Pete Walkers book COMPLEX PTSD from surviving to thriving

Post by Oceantide »

Hello EH and everyone,

It's so refreshing to read comments that resonate with mine. I'm posting this 2+years after this thread, but just joined isurvive, so am catching up.

Yes to the Drama of the Gifted Child (which I read in 2006). Yes to Judith Herman (~2009).

I initially resonated with Levine (~2010) because I didn't believe my pre-verbal memories. Levine's description of mammals returning to the scene of the crime, or 2yo crash victims to the scene of the plane crash, made sense to me because after returning from years "escaping" overseas I mysteriously chose to live in a small town in my home state, many miles from my workplace, but just 5 min. from the highway rest stop where I was raped in a car by my father as a baby. Two years after "remembering" the rape in SE therapy (I didn't know I was in a car and thought I was 18 months, but knew it was my father) my mother wrote me an email validating my SE memory: "You've never told me what happened to you, but God revealed to me that the incest started at age 1, when your father was stopped by a policeman who accused him of abusing you during a diaper change at a rest stop. He told me it was traumatic to be accused of this. I believed him then, and don't know what to believe today." Right.

But once I "trusted" my body memories, the SE therapy went south for me as well. The SE therapist didn't know about DID, and was horrified when I switched 6 times in rapid succession at my final session. Those 8yo parts were so angry at her. She was skilled at SE but perpetuated ignorance. Like EH, I spent a lot of time and resources on SE therapy.

By the time I encountered Pete Walker I was aware of the SA RA MC. I recall feeling alienated and angry. So thanks for your articulate analysis, EH.
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