I didn't freak out, and that's a big accomplishment

[BlueNeon]

A small, big things occurred to me some hours ago. I was talking about my abuser with my partner, I asked him to check his socials to see what he's doing in life and eventually to write his employer to let him know about the pending criminal process. I talked about it in a calm, reasonable way, I didn't feel any bad emotion and after we changed the topic, I totally forgot about him.
It's the first time in eleven years that I can talk or think about him without having a huge crisis of some kind. Kudos to me!

[Jonesy]

Hey BlueNeon

That really does sound like you are due a huge round of applause - testament to your hard work.
And how fabulous that you have someone close to share all this with and to help you with the processing.

[BlueNeon]

Thank you, Jonesy. It really meant a lot to me.
You're right, I'm really lucky about this --he's the only good thing in my life, right now. I'd be completely alone without him.

[coconuts]

That's fabulous that you felt safe to talk about it and safe to let it go. What strength within you now. And how great to have support with you.

[Watercolor]

I'm so glad you were able to speak of this without all manner of distress and upheaval. Bravo to you!

[BlueNeon]

Thank you both, Watercolor and coconuts!

[there]

BlueNeon,
That’s great news! It’s a milestone, for sure.
Glad you were feeling calm about the subject when talking with your partner.