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A Non-Profit Organization for Child Abuse Survivors Learning to Thrive

Terms & Conditions of Use (Updated Jan 8, 2014)

License and Access

Subject to your compliance with the Disclaimer of Warranties and Limitation of Liabilities, these Terms and Conditions of Use and our Privacy Policy, grants you a limited, non-exclusive, non-transferable, non-sublicensable license to access and make personal and non-commercial use of our Website.



Lawful Activity
You agree to use our Website in a manner consistent with any and all applicable laws and regulations in the jurisdiction where you are accessing our Website. You agree that you will not use any device, software or routine to bypass or to interfere or attempt to interfere with the proper working of the site. You agree that you will not take any action that imposes an unreasonable or disproportionately large load on our infrastructure. Much of the information on our site is updated on a real-time basis and is proprietary or is licensed to by our users or third parties.


Age Requirement
Members must be age 18 or older to access our Website.  Members suspected of being younger than age 18 may be suspended from forums or chat without warning or banned from accessing the website.  If you are under the age of 18, please contact the Director for other resources at or email


Research and Advertising Not Permitted
Using for academics, journalism or other research purposes including blogs is strictly prohibited and constitutes a violation of these Terms and Conditions of Use. What our members have endured and what they communicate is not meant to be used for research.  Any person using our Website for research may be denied further access and may be reported to law enforcement, academic discipline boards and professional ethics licensing authorities.  Questions regarding this policy can be referred to the Director of at or email

You may not engage in advertising to, or solicitation of, other Members to buy, sell or promote any products or services through the Service. You will not transmit any chain letters, junk email or marketing posts to other Members. Although cannot, and does not, monitor the conduct of its Members off the site, it is also a violation of these rules to use any information obtained from the Service to harass, abuse, or harm another person, or to contact, advertise to, solicit, or sell to any Member without their prior explicit consent.


Removing Inappropriate Member Content
You understand and agree that may delete any content, messages, photos or account profiles (collectively, “Member Content”) that in the sole judgement of violates the Disclaimer of Warranties and Limitation of Liability, the Terms and Conditions of Use and the Privacy Policy documents or which might be offensive, illegal, or that might violate the rights, harm, or threaten the safety of or its Members. shall have the ability to and may choose to investigate and take appropriate legal action, at its sole discretion, against anyone who violates this provision, including without limitation, removing the offending communication from the Site or Service and terminating the Membership of such a violator. The following list is a partial list of the kind of content that is illegal or prohibited on the Site. It includes, but is not limited to, content that: is patently offensive to the online community, such as content that promotes racism, bigotry, hatred or physical harm of any kind against any group or individual; harasses or advocates harassment of another person or invades their privacy; involves the transmission of “junk mail”, “chain letters,” or unsolicited commercial e-mail or “spamming”; promotes information that you know is false, misleading or promotes illegal activities or conduct that is abusive, threatening, obscene, defamatory or libellous; promotes an illegal or unauthorized copy of another person’s copyrighted work, such as providing pirated computer programs or links to them, providing information to circumvent manufacture-installed copy-protect devices, or providing pirated music or links to pirated music files; contains restricted or password only access pages, or hidden pages or images (those not linked to or from another accessible page); displays pornographic or sexually explicit material that is commercial in nature; provides material that exploits people under the age of eighteen (18) in a sexual or violent manner, or solicits personal information from anyone under 18;  provides content that involves, falsifying gender, impersonating another Member, threat of suicide or harm to others; provides instructional information about illegal activities such as making or buying illegal weapons, violating someone’s privacy, or providing or creating computer viruses; solicits passwords or personal identifying information for commercial or unlawful purposes from other users; sending advertisements in chat or instant messaging messages; and engages in commercial activities or sales without our prior written consent such as contests, sweepstakes, barter, advertising, and pyramid schemes; promotes, advertises or links to blogs, websites or professional services including but not limited to those of a therapeutic and healing nature.

Anybody leaving any posts or messages that disrespect or cause harm to a Member may be contacted by a moderator or the Director and their access to forums, chat or our Website may be immediately suspended.



Options for Avoiding Disrespectful Content
If your words are causing a Member harm and you are asked to refrain from using them, then you need to do one of the following:

  • Find another way to express yourself (use less triggering words)
  • Change the topic
  • Leave the thread, chat, or log-off

If you feel harmed by someone on our Website you can do the following:

  • Report the situation to the Moderator (if available)
  • In Chat, put the person on ignore (by right clicking on their name in the window to the right in the chat room, then selecting ignore). In the forums, you can choose not to interact and respectively ask for the same consideration from that person
  • Leave the thread, chat, or log-off
  • Contact the Director via email at or email


Trigger Warnings uses three types of trigger warnings. They align with a traffic warning signal.

Whenever a member posts content, whether it is in response to a thread or starting a new topic, he or she must select one of three trigger indicators located at the top of the message box. Here are the options:

st-red Red ST = Severe Triggers

mt-amber Yellow/Amber MT = May Trigger

nt-green Green NT = No Triggers

You, as the member, should select which icon best suits the post. We ask you to take this responsibility seriously, as it helps ensure the well-being of those reading. Please note that titles of posts should not contain any triggering content. The Moderators or Director may make a judgement call if they feel your trigger indicator needs amended and may post to say they have done so.

As a general guide you should use:
• NT – for merely mentioning a triggering topic
• MT – for including some detail
• ST – for graphic detail

Visually impaired members should be able to take advantage of alt tags with the above system but if they simply inform the director, our team should be glad to discreetly adjust trigger warnings on their behalf.

Potential Triggers
Below is a list of common triggers; but please note this is a general list and be aware that what may not trigger one person may trigger another.

Alcohol and Substance abuse

Animal abuse

Compulsive behaviours

Eating disorders

Emotional abuse

Physical abuse



Ritualistic abuse


Sexual abuse

Sexual content


*Please note that, regardless of content;
• the use of profanity within a post merits a Yellow MT
• excessive profanity within a post (upwards of 3) merits a Red ST

While the Moderators and Director do their utmost to ensure posts are in the appropriate forums and with the appropriate trigger warning, members must take responsibility to ensure that they are emotionally in a place to read whichever posts they select. recommends that if you are feeling vulnerable, you should refrain from reading any posts that have a yellow or red trigger warning until you are feeling more grounded.

If at any time a Member is unsure as to which trigger indicator to use, please contact the Director or ask the Moderator assigned to the specific forum for assistance.

If something you wish to discuss could be triggering, please draw it to the attention of those participating in the discussion before continuing.

If you are triggered you can:

  • Ask the person to refrain from discussing the triggering subject
  • Leave the thread or simply log-off
  • Discuss the situation with the Director at or email


Good Participation Skills
We keep this discussion space productive by treating other participants appropriately. Be gentle with each other. Realise that every person who comes here has been injured or bruised, or is sensitive to those who are. Be cautious about accusations, or expressions of rage, at fellow participants. Use “I” statements. Speak from your own experience. Speak from your heart. This is the most powerful and influential way to make your point.  Please be careful using capitals, bold or underlining when “talking”/typing. This is seen as yelling or screaming at those reading and could hurt, or trigger, a fellow Member. If you need to express yourself by yelling/screaming please use CAPS cautiously.  Moderators may remove any inappropriate posts or articles. This includes abusive posts or other disruptive items.

Do not under any circumstances use our Website to discuss another Member.


Suicidal Feelings
It is ok to discuss feelings ON suicide however, this is not the place for suicide notes, threats or requests for emergency assistance. This is the place to discuss your feelings, no matter how dark or despairing. Share what you need to share and get help when you need help from your local service providers.


Account Identities
When posting about past abuse we consider anonymity very important. It is not permissible to register twice under different identities, unless with specific permission from the Director. If this is done without permission, one or both accounts may be removed from


Active Email Account
Members must maintain an active email account. Email changes can be made by contacting the Director or in the “User Control Panel” after logging into the forum.


Changing Usernames
Choosing an anonymous username is the responsibility of the Member. Usernames can only be changed under extraordinary circumstances such as abusers or family discovering your posts and with the permission of the Director. To request such a change, contact the Director at or email  Usernames cannot be changed, for example, if you decide you do not “like” your username or if you have chosen the same username you use on another site.


Reading Announcements by the Director
It is very important to read posts that are made by the Director of These posts contain important information and often require an acknowledgement. We request Members please state within these posts that they have read the Announcement.


Receiving and Responding to Emails sent by the Director/
If there is a time that a Member receives an email from the Director, or Admin Staff, due to site guideline violations, or any other issue, and does not respond within 48 hours (especially if they are seen to be posting on the forums after the email has been sent), their account may be deactivated. If a Member can provide sufficient reason why they failed to respond, then their account may be reactivated.


Inactive Member Accounts
The Member list for is regularly reviewed. If an account has not been used in the 3 months from registration then it will be removed from the system. Members may be able to re-register if they make direct email contact with the Director.


Do Not Discuss Offenders Directly is a forum for discussion and healing, and is not meant as a place to confront offenders. Do not refer to offenders by name or provide specific information that might incriminate anyone, such as the city you live in or the city an offender lives in.  Do Not Discuss Details of Unresolved Offenses.  Do not discuss specific information regarding illegal activities, crimes which have not been tried or crimes for which charges are pending.


Breaking the Cycle
Understand that may accept survivors who have offended in their past and are now breaking the cycle of abuse. It is vital that these survivors produce evidence to show they are actively participating in therapy, in a sex offender treatment program and/or have other appropriate support systems in place. This information would be treated confidentially as per applicable laws. Any admissions of current abuse against a child, or adult, may result in immediate banning and appropriate notification to law enforcement authorities will be made.



Double Posting
It is not acceptable to post the same post in two different forums. When you do this, it can make Members feel as though they need to respond more than once. It is also added work on the Director and the Moderators. Your post should be responded to in due time. Double posting includes summarising posts in a different forum. Double posting also refers to copying your own previous posts and re-posting them within new posts or threads; please use an internal isurvive link to an earlier post if necessary for reference (this is the only instance when including a URL is permissible).


Posting in Open Forum
Triggering posts can be put in Open Forum, but must be clearly marked. It is asked that Open Forum not be a “catch-all” for posts, as they can be responded to in the other forums. If a post is found to have content that best fits another forum, then the post may be moved and the Member notified by email.


Posting in the Appropriate Forums
It is the responsibility of each Member to ensure that their posts are made in the most appropriate forum. If necessary, posts will be moved and the Member notified by email. If a member is unsure where a post belongs the Director can be contacted at any time. Please be mindful that if a discussion is better suited for another forum, the Moderators or Director may move it. For example, if a discussion about sexual abuse changes to discussing ritual abuse, the topic may be split, and the posts regarding ritual abuse may be moved to the more appropriate forum. The Member whose post was moved should always be contacted by the Director to let him or her know.


Quoting Material
Do not quote the entire post of another person within your own when responding to other Members.  Do not post text from other websites, forums, blogs or email threads. Do not post, copy, save or distribute any material found on except for your own personally written posts, which can be saved for your own personal reference.

Please keep copyright restrictions in mind when making any references to books, songs, articles, poetry or other pieces of material. Share only references or brief quotes that qualify under copyright and fair use laws. Limit your brief quotation to the minimum necessary to make your point and always include the full copyright references (author, title, publisher, year, page or artist, song, album, producer, year). This will also allow those interested to view an excerpt in its full copyrighted and protected context if they choose.


Editing Posts 
It can be triggering for other Members when the content of a post is changed without any explanation. If you feel the need to edit your post, please write a few words at the bottom to explain why you have done so.


Deleting Posts
Do not delete any posts which have received a reply, as this can be unsettling for other Members.  If posts need to be removed for security, privacy or other reasons, the Director or Administrative Staff should be contacted and can assist members in the secure process.


Disclosure of Personally Identifiable Information
Do Not Reveal Your Identity. Your privacy and confidentiality are important. We strongly advise that you select a username completely unrelated to any other which you may already use elsewhere online or in real life. This is to help protect your privacy, as it is too easy to be linked to identifiable information, blog names or other places on the web or 3D life. Do not share your real name, address, city, telephone number, email or place of work to anyone in the community.  Do not share specific details that would allow the reader to identify you, another person, place or specific instance of conduct.


Linking to External Content
Do not post external links to website addresses on the forums or in chat.  Since we can’t guarantee the appropriateness of content or information on other websites, any links or URLs posted will be removed. The only exception is sharing an internal link to reference something located within the isurvive forum or main web page.


Reporting Issues
If you encounter a problematic posting on site, add a report to the post for a moderator or contact the Director at or email


Posting Images
It is understandable you may wish to share images of family, pets or other images that may be in support of yourself or another Member. However, because it is unknown what images may trigger someone no images or image links are permitted on the site.


Red Font
It can be triggering for some members to view red font so please do not post or sign using the red font option.


Preventing Unauthorised Access
Always log yourself out of chat or your member account should you need to leave your computer for any length of time.  It is vital that the only person using your login details is yourself. Failure to comply can result in an automatic suspension and may be reviewed by the Board of Directors.


Spouses, Partners and Family of Members
As a rule, we do not believe it beneficiary for the spouse or partner of a Member to participate in This can cause the survivor to no longer feel they have a safe place to share their past and cause hurt feelings in the relationship. Should you wish to explore this possibility then we ask for direct contact to be made with the Director. A stipulation would be that neither party ever post on each other’s threads. If either breaches this guideline, then one or both accounts may be suspended.  Our Website should not be used to work through relationship issues.



Role of Moderators 
The moderators are available to help with individual or group problems. Should the need arise, you can either request intervention by posting for moderator assistance or email the Director at or email Moderators are not there as therapists or counsellors; their role is merely to support and help keep the website organised and productive. Moderators are not always online so can only respond to requests for assistance accordingly.


Terminating Discussions
If a Director, or Moderator, requests an issue to be dropped, a Member must comply immediately. The thread may be locked and should anyone choose to open another thread to continue the disagreement, then the Member in question may be suspended indefinitely.  Such circumstances should be dealt with by the Director in private via email.  


Discipline for Violations
Severe or excessive violations of these Terms and Conditions of Use may result in your immediate suspension without notice.  However, under ordinary circumstances, if a Member violates any of these Terms and Conditions of Use in any way, the following will result:

  • The Director will speak to you and you may be immediately suspended from the forum or chat room
  • A second violation will result in a second warning and a one-month suspension by the Director.  Following this, it is your responsibility to contact the Director to have your access reinstated.  A contract may be drawn up between yourself and the Director for you to continue to participate
  • If you violate any of our Terms or Conditions of Use for a third time, you will be permanently banned from chat or our Website.


The Board of Directors 
The Board of Directors may be consulted by the Director regarding decisions over If Members are dissatisfied with decisions made by the Director, they are free to forward their concerns to the Board at any time. They should be responded to as soon as is possible.



Probation Before Chat
You are required to be an active posting member on the forums for a minimum of 2 weeks prior to seeking approval to use the chat room. We would like this time to gauge how you interact with other Members. To register for chat, contact the Director via email at or email Everyone who registers for chat must have their account verified by the Director, so you may not be able to enter chat right away.


Suicidal Feelings During Chat 

If you choose to enter the chat room feeling at significant risk of suicide or self-harm, then we request you seek external help and support immediately. Discussions in the chat room remain uncensored and occur in real-time. This unedited content can be extremely graphic and of a sensitive nature. The topics discussed could trigger strong feelings and uncontrollable behaviour.  You should not enter if such triggering content might cause you to harm yourself or someone else.


Linking to External Content
As on site, do not post links to website addresses in the chat room. Do not click on a link if it is posted in the chat room. Since we can’t guarantee the appropriateness of content or information on other websites, any links or URLs posted may be removed. If you know of a problematic posting in the chatroom, contact the Director at or email


Private Chat Messages
You are only able to private message with a Moderator and should always ask for their permission prior to doing so. Please do this each time in order that others within the room are aware of the situation.



We assert all our copyrights. All content included in or made available through, such as text posts, documents, graphics, logos, images, audio clips, digital downloads and data compilations is the property of or its contractors and protected by United States and international copyright laws. The compilation of all content included in or made available through our Website is the exclusive property of and protected by U.S. and international copyright laws.

You grant a license to us to use any content you create on the website that is covered by copyright or similar intellectual property or publication laws.  By posting content to any area of our Website, you automatically grant, and you represent and warrant that you have the right to grant, to, an irrevocable, perpetual, non-exclusive, fully-paid, worldwide license to use, copy, perform, display, and distribute such information, rights of publicity, and content and to prepare derivative works of, or incorporate into other works and other media, such information and content, and to grant and authorize sublicenses of the foregoing. For privacy terms, please refer to our Privacy Policy.


Trademarks asserts all trademark rights.  All Graphics, logos, page headers, button icons, scripts, and service names included in or made available through any portion of our Website are trademarks or trade dress of in the U.S. and other countries.  Our trademarks and trade dress may not be used in connection with any product or service that is not part of, in any manner that is likely to cause confusion among the public, or in any manner that disparages or discredits ISURVIVE.ORG.  All other trademarks not owned by that appear on our Website are the property of their respective owners, who may or may not be affiliated with, connected to, or sponsored by


Electronic Communications
When you access our Website, or send e-mails to us, you are communicating with us electronically.  You consent to receive communications from us electronically. We may communicate with you by e-mail or by posting notices on our Website.  You agree that all agreements, notices, disclosures and other communications that we provide to you electronically satisfy any legal requirement that such communications be in writing.


Accessibility complies with all applicable disability access laws and does not intend to discriminate against any individual with a handicap, disability or medical condition.  A Member or visitor who has difficulty using our Website because of a handicap, disability or medical condition should contact the Director at or email for assistance or to notify us of problems.


Entire Agreement
This Agreement in association with any and all agreement(s) You may have or enter into in future with  regarding Content provided to You at, in or through our Website, or in association with services provided by, contains the entire agreement between You and regarding Your access to, and use of, our Website, Content, and all other materials and services available in, at, through or in association with, our Website, and all features and functionality directly and indirectly related to our Website.  This Agreement supersedes all prior written and oral understandings, writings and representations, including those, if any, made by any third party or other person. This Agreement may be amended at any time by by updating the online version of this Agreement on our Website.


Choice of Law
You agree that this Agreement and all disputes or controversies of any kind arising under, or related to the materials, services, features or functions available in, at, through or in association with, or in any way relating to, our Website, any Content or services provided by any Website Content Providers or affiliates and/or this Agreement, shall all be governed by and construed under the laws of California and the federal government of the United States.  The application of the United Nations Convention of Contracts for the International Sale of Goods is expressly excluded.  You further agree that notwithstanding any judicially or statutorily created choice of law rule that would otherwise require the application of the law of some other jurisdiction, all provisions of this Agreement and all matters or controversies of any kind arising out of, or related to this Agreement or the rights or liabilities of the parties hereto shall be governed solely by the substantive statutory and common law of California and the federal government of the United States.


You agree that any dispute or claim relating in any way to your use of our Website, will be resolved by binding arbitration, rather than in court, except that you may assert claims in small claims court if your claims qualify.  The Federal Arbitration Act and federal arbitration law apply to this agreement.  There is no judge or jury in arbitration, and court review of an arbitration award is limited. However, an arbitrator can award on an individual basis the same damages and relief as a court (including injunctive and declaratory relief or statutory damages), and must follow the terms of these Conditions of Use as a court would.  The arbitration will be conducted by the American Arbitration Association (AAA) under its rules, including the AAA’s Supplementary Procedures for Consumer-Related Disputes.

We each agree that any dispute resolution proceedings will be conducted only on an individual basis and not in a class, consolidated or representative action. If for any reason a claim proceeds in court rather than in arbitration we each waive any right to a jury trial. We also both agree that you or we may bring suit in court to enjoin infringement or other misuse of intellectual property rights.


You and agree that if any provision of this Agreement is held to be unenforceable for any reason, such provision shall be reformed only to the extent necessary to make it enforceable and all other portions of this Agreement shall remain in full force and effect (i.e., if any part of this Agreement is unlawful, void or otherwise unenforceable, only that part will be deemed severable and, such severance will not affect the validity and enforceability of any and all the remaining provisions).


You acknowledge and agree that the failure of or any Website Content Providers or affiliates, or any of either’s assignees or successors, to enforce any of the specific provisions of this Agreement shall not comprise a waiver of, or preclude or prevent any later, further or other enforcement of such provision(s), or any other provision(s), or waive, preclude, prevent or diminish the exercise of any other right hereunder.


Affirmation of Agreement
You acknowledge You Have Read This Entire Agreement. By clicking on a link intended to signify Your agreement to this Agreement, for example, by clicking the acceptance button, by affirming by email that you have read all conditions, by continuing to access our Website and/or any service or other functionality available in, on, at or through our Website available at, in or through our Website, or by obtaining Content from any Website Content Providers, You agree that You are acknowledging and affirming that You have read this entire Agreement and that You agree to all its terms, conditions, warranties and other provisions set forth in the DISCLAIMER of WARRANTIES AND LIMITAITON OF LIABILITY, Terms and Conditions of Use, and the Privacy Policy.


Mutually Drafted Negotiation Option
For purposes of construction and interpretation of this Agreement, both You and shall be deemed to have mutually drafted this Agreement and all parts thereof. If You would like to negotiate other terms or otherwise modify this Agreement before providing your assent and agreement, please contact the Director at or email  You hereby acknowledge and agree that this is not a contract of adhesion and that as a material inducement for to provide a license to You to use our Website.  You hereby agree that You shall not make any claim or support any action on the claim that this Agreement constitutes a contract of adhesion or is unconscionable in any way.  This is a legal contract.  Like all legal contracts, You are advised to procure appropriate legal advice before entering into this agreement.  You acknowledge and agree that Company did not require You to enter into this Agreement without having sufficient time and opportunity to consult with an attorney.  You hereby further acknowledge that You have either consulted with an attorney prior to agreeing to the provisions of this Agreement or You expressly and knowingly have opted not to seek legal counsel prior to your full agreement hereto.


Paragraph Headings
Paragraph and subparagraph headings of this Agreement are inserted for convenience only and shall not be deemed to constitute a part hereof nor to affect the meaning thereof.