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Sexual Abuse

The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse

by Staci Haines (Cleis Press, 1999)

This book is a bible for survivors of sexual abuse who have determined that they have healing to do. It gives broad, detailed descriptions of the kinds of physical, emotional, and psychological problems that plague survivors, and explores how to work through these problems. It covers a range of sexual issues. Although the author tailors the book for women, it is useful for men too.

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The Courage to Heal, A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis (2008)

The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and a map of the healing journey to every woman who was sexually abused as a child—and to those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible.

Weaving together personal experience with professional knowledge, the authors provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, and support throughout the healing process. Readers will feel recognized and encouraged by hundreds of moving first-person stories drawn from interviews and the authors’ extensive work with survivors, both nationally and internationally.

Available —  UK: Amazon or USA: Amazon (paperback or audio)


Healing The Shame That Binds You

by John Bradshaw (Health Communications, 1988 and 2006)

This book deals with the effects and causes of “toxic shame”, and how we can escape the self-destructive cycle that accompanies the dark shame from our pasts. For survivors of sexual or emotional abuse, this book provides insight and solutions to break the shame spiral.

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Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse

by Mic Hunter (Ballantine Books, 1991)

This empathetic gem covers survivor and recovery issues, and is one of most widely recognized and acclaimed books for male survivors. The first half of the book defines sexual abuse, helps the reader to understand what it is and how it affects people’s lives, and then discusses the possibilities for and methods of recovery. The second half features male survivors telling their stories in their own words.

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Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse

by Mike Lew (Harper Collins, 1988)

A must-read for male survivors who want insight into their lives post-abuse. It describes all the most common problems facing abuse survivors, addresses masculinity issues and discusses recovery with an emphasis on counseling. Survivors’ descriptions of their lives accompany Lew’s text throughout the book.

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What Ever It Takes, God: The Most Difficult Things For Men To Survive

by John Oarc – Authorhouse (2006)

In this unique and true personal account of life after childhood traumas such as molestation, divorce, and mental abuse, the reader will be able to look inside the mind and life of the survivor. The reader will gain insight into the struggles one faces from childhood to adulthood after the trauma. This book courses through self-destruction, self-injurious behavior, self-help, and professional counseling. Experience life through the eyes of the survivor as only he can describe with true accuracy. Professionals have published regarding male molestation, but only a few survivors have written books concerning their life experiences, and these books stand alone. No one can accurately bring the content to life like the survivor, and this book undeniably stands alone in writing style and substance. Professional counselors, psychiatrists, psychologists, and psych students can gain an enormous amount of clinical insight into male molestation from this book. Pastors, parents, significant others, family members, and survivors will be able to develop a vast amount of helpful information to assist in coping and healing. Child predators should also be able to understand the devastation that lay ahead of the victim; to see the true destruction that lay in wait for the child could be a deterrent and possibly save lives. This book discusses pornography, adultery, poor coping mechanisms, addictions, anxiety, depression, codependency, divorce, low self-esteem, and more in vivid detail, with the confidence that many may find hope and healing.

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Those Are My Private Parts

by Diane Hansen

An excellent companion book on sexual abuse prevention to help parents teach a child that their body parts are theirs and NO one has the right to touch them or use them as part of a game or fun activity. This work is written from the eyes of a child – in a child friendly, easy to understand language – a difficult feat on a difficult subject.

Available —  UK: Amazon or USA: Amazon and Kindle (English and Spanish)


Strong at the Heart

by Carolyn Lehman

It hurts children and teens in profound ways. But people can heal—and go on to lead rich and interesting lives. In healing, they found unexpected strengths. They’ve chosen to tell their stories and be photographed for my book, so that you can see how real teens and adults heal from sexual trauma.

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Haunted Marriage: Overcoming the Ghosts of Your Spouse’s Childhood Abuse

by Clark E. BarshingerLojan E. La RoweAndres T. Tapia

This book is written from a husband’s point of view, and is an excellent resource in helping your spouse and you, deal with past childhood abuse.

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I Can’t Get Over It, A Handbook for Trauma Survivors

by Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D. (1996)

This work guides and supports readers through the healing process of recovering from post-traumatic stress disorder resulting from crime, accidents, rape, family violence, and sexual abuse. It seeks to help in coping with memories and emotions, such as anger, grief, survivor guilt, and recognizing related problems, such as depression, compulsive behavior and low self-esteem. The support this book offers aims to help identify the triggers that may set off flashbacks, anxiety attacks, and other systems of PTSD, relieve secondary wounding caused by other’s blame and insensitivity, and gain a sense of empowerment and hope for the future.

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This Tangled Web

by Kate Swift (Published 2010)

A collection of poetry and art on the subject of childhood sexual abuse written by the person who lived it and who now lives after it…the web is no longer so tangled and I certainly am not trapped by it. These poems are now yours to help you on your own journey. I am not totally ‘fixed’ but I am no longer totally broken.

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Incest to Where?

by Ruth Toby – Authorhouse (November 30, 2005)

INCEST TO WHERE? Is a true story of a Jewish woman who was brought up in a very strict orthodox home who, against her wish, is struggling to survive. In her agony, and confused judgment she continued to inflict hurt on herself by not knowing which path to follow in different stages of her life; she was ill-equipped with the necessary preparation for her life. All she had to learn from was her instinct. Her vulnerability stood out like a sore thumb for the unscrupulous to exploit. People, including the very famous, contributed in the dehumanization process of a fellow human being. Armed with a unique philosophy of life, born out of her experience, she hopes to confront reality and make meaning out of it. The wherewithal to achieve this is through her music. As long as the breath remains in her, she hopes for a better life.

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The Courage to Be Me: A story of courage, self compassion and hope after sexual abuse

by Dr. Nina Burrowes, (Published March 2014)

This illustrated book shares ideas and thoughts on how to rebuild one’s life after sexual abuse.  “Join a group of women as they share their stories of courage, self-compassion and hope after rape and sexual abuse. Find out how coming together and learning about recovery helped them on their journey. Using a combination of illustration, storytelling and research data The courage to be me has been written to send a message of hope to the millions of people who are living with the impact of rape or sexual abuse.

Available —  UK: AmazonUK (paperback) and Kindle  or USA: Amazon


Say It Out Loud: Revealing and Healing the Scars of Sexual Abuse

by Roberta Dolan, (Published October 2014)

Roberta Dolan shares concrete healing strategies for survivors of sexual abuse, offering fellow survivors the inspiration to begin their own healing journey, as well as an encouraging message: the scars of abuse can be healed.

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