An area for new members to introduce themselves, as well as a place where all members can share concerns, questions or general posts.
Everyone is welcome here.
My name is Gallifrey and English is not my first language, so sorry for my mistakes.
In my city there is no support group for people who experienced sexual abuse in their childhood. If you are not a victim of domestic violence, addicted to alcohol or drugs, homeless or single mother, there is no help for you.
So I am only on individual therapy for 2 years and what I need so desperately is hope. Hope that after what happened, you still can be happy again and live quite normal life and even thrive.
I would be grateful if someone would like to share their story of healing which led to better life in the end.
Greetings to all who are here, and sorry that you have to be here because of everything that happened to you
But I hope that somehow we can help each other.
yes, there is hope. it takes a lot of work, but you can go from survivor to one who thrives.
Recovering from abuse is like waking up on a wild rollercoaster ride.
We are constantly fighting to find equilibrium as we dip, swirl, and do loop-de-loops on this ride we didn't choose for ourselves.
I regret to say that you may experience times when you are upside down or sideways.
Hold on tight and cry out when you need help.
Someone here will be listening and trying to help you along the way.
<3 scars
A scar is the tattoo of a triumph to be proud of. It says the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward. There is a beauty in my scars that I can see now.
Thank you Scars and Serenity for your reply. Soon I hope I can get enough courage to share my story.
I like the comparison to roller-coaster, I think it reflects reality perfectly.
I hope that as healing progresses there will be more 'ups' and less 'downs'.
First, a warm welcome to you. I am sorry you have reasons to be here, but I am glad you found us. Second, great job posting in english. You did so well I would have never known if you hadn't said anything. Bravo!
Here's what I can offer: My healing was and is still a journey. I have a good therapist with whom I am able to do a lot of good work. I actually have multiple members of what I call my "Mental Health Team" who each help me in their specified areas. I still question whether I am making the right decisions, struggle to create all the boundaries I need, stick to some choices I regret, and I experience regressions with certain triggers. I even struggle to post here, a place that's close to my heart, at times and find myself running away after periods of being a little more active. All that said, I am moving forward. I am healing. I am progressing. I find myself putting myself first more than I have in the past few years. I can express myself more and hold more people accountable when they do things that aren't good for me. I have found support on this site for many, many years and have found ways to offer support to others based on things I have experienced/learned. I have come to accept more things about myself and see myself as a work in progress, not a failure. Granted, I don't always feel good and I am absolutely the best as ripping myself apart. None of that takes away from the fact that I have come a very long way. Therapy, support, time, honesty with myself, etc...it's all working to help me better myself as each day passes. I don't like this journey. I wish I never have a reason to be on it. I didn't get a choice and I couldn't/can't control other people's actions. So here I am doing what I can to make my life healthier and better.
