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Re: still going on

Post by VAC » Mon Aug 12, 2019 3:43 am


I have had many thoughts about mother the last few days...she talked to me when I was very young; I guess she had no one else and thought I was too little to know or remember.

Sad. Things I never should have heard or have to process. She was in love with a man who she was engaged to during WWII. She outranked him.

I grew up seeing his picture, knowing "he should have been your father". He kept track of her all those years.

Several years after mother's death, I sent him the faded photographs and traces of love, his letters....he was 95 and in very good health. He called me and was surprised. I wanted him to know, to have the parts of him that she had treasured all of her life. My grandmother did not approve of him because of religion.....she married my dad, a younger disabled veteran, without telling her folks.

I could have said more to this man, but wanted to be merciful: he got the drift.

It was something I believed I needed to do for my mother. There were too noble to actually do anything about it. He came to see her a few years before she died. She really had so little in life that was hers....I tried to get her to leave my dad and have a life.

I have never met another human with eyes like hers, brilliant steel gray/blue that truly reminded me of a high end star sapphire. She was smart, erudite, courageous, spiteful, generous, faithful, committed, beautiful. She delighted in giving my dad hell.

She traveled with us.

I miss her.


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Re: still going on

Post by Fleur » Fri Aug 16, 2019 2:01 pm

Your mother sounds a wonderful woman VAC

Parents are special people, even when nasty - more of a self memo, as dad is being stubborn to point of having to be put into care - something he vehemently opposes

Naturally you miss her

I trust you and your family discussed concerns, had closure, prior to death separating you

Much caring
Onward to a safe community for all people in which to thrive ~ gentle hugs [if okay] ~ Fleur

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