A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

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Fleur
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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by Fleur » Thu Jan 10, 2019 12:33 am

Hello thehusband


Our unspoken thoughts and feelings can be a bit like the unmentioned "elephant in the room" - impacting us yet we are perhaps unaware on a conscious level

I felt I was walking on eggshells around my husband, but that awareness only emerged after I departed. May you and your wife, family, remain as a loving unit as you explore life's adventures together


Much caring
Onward to a safe community for all people in which to thrive ~ gentle hugs [if okay] ~ Fleur

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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by the husband » Thu Jan 17, 2019 7:39 am

Hi Fleur

We seem to be getting on okay at the moment. She caught a miserable cold, so her aspirations are a moot point just now. She started in on our daughter a bit the other day because my daughter was on her phone shortly after being picked up from school, but our daughter calmly stated she was exhausted and just wanted a few minutes of quiet before talking. My wife was chagrined when our daughter elected to take the bus most of the way home the today. On the plus side, our daughter was ready to chat after a nice quiet bus ride.

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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by Fleur » Fri Jan 18, 2019 5:45 am

Hello thehusband


Sounds to me as though your daughter has integrated your approach to life. I imagine being ready to chat after a quiet bus ride would mean a more informative conversation occurred than otherwise might have happened

May your wife soon recover from ailment

Wishing you and your loved ones very good health


Much caring
Onward to a safe community for all people in which to thrive ~ gentle hugs [if okay] ~ Fleur

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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by the husband » Tue Jan 29, 2019 6:56 am

Hi Fleur

Yes, our daughter really is the best of both of us.

My wife still has things going on, but she did something pretty great the other day: Apparently she wasn't feeling up to our usual intimacy, but instead remembered to nurture me in other ways. It was very nice and had the effects of feeling close without the tension of feeling false.

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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by Fleur » Sun Feb 03, 2019 3:21 am

Thank you for sharing a lovely experience thehusband
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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by the husband » Mon Feb 18, 2019 8:00 am

For reasons that my wife has not yet disclosed fully, she is not working as much as she could. In times past she would instead retreat to our room to watch Lawn and Order SVU on endless loop, but she's been handling household affairs. That's totally acceptable.

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Re: A Husband's story (formerly "the husband's story")

Post by Fleur » Mon Feb 18, 2019 9:44 am

Hello thehusband


That seems a positive situation for you at present

May your wife trust you with her reasoning when ready regarding reduced working hours


Kind regards
Onward to a safe community for all people in which to thrive ~ gentle hugs [if okay] ~ Fleur

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