Funny thing: the SA revelation was one thing, and I realize that it was done by BOTH of my parents, each in their own way, but I have no real urgent urge to purge with a T. I have had that urge where it came to MD's PA and EA, but this SA thing with my father I have acknowledged, and although I'm not exactly fine with it, it's all about that my father is dead and gone, so what exactly can I do about it, if anything? I have so many other positive and useful things to do instead, and I think that I'll do those things until I feel differently about it. If it troubles me any further, I'll go see one of those free T's, but until then, no.
N came here. I wrote about it, and then erased it. It was VERY negative, and I haven't the time nor the inclination to go on about it, but he apparently sees me as a storage unit for his things and his own personal mailbox (I'm also serving as his postmistress and he's USING my address) as he vagabonds around the country, although he calls it "being a friend". He had no concern for me or my feelings as he blew in at 4am, napped, dumped his things (nasty and offensive things!) right smack in the middle of my front room, and LEFT! He refused to put them into the garage (out of the way), as I had asked him to do and had prepped a place out there. I had also offered to make him a cuppa after his nap, but he only wanted it if it was "to go"! Well, FUHGETABOUTIT!!! There's a difference between a cuppa between old friends, and to be treated like a barista at Starbuck's!!!
Once son came home from his convention, he hit the roof! We will be moving N's things to the garage tomorrow morning. I gave N only 2 months to store them here (until the first of the year), and I'm not playing!! Dr. Phil says, "You teach people how to treat you.", and that was certainly the case here. I'm pleased to see myself setting some boundaries with N...FINALLY! He objected to having his things moved, but would not come back to do it himself, although he was asked to do so while he was here. Oh well. He even asked me to store his nasty massage table under MY BED! The answer was no. He finally capitulated and agreed that we "COULD" move his things to the garage. And only until the end of the year. GOOD. I am not only pleased with that, but also that I had the intestinal fortitude to insist upon it. YAY for me!
I am very busy getting my front room, family room, kitchen, and computer room squared away nicely. I have decided to let the garage be last...kinda sort of. More like an "as needed". I'm nearly finished with the boxes (cutting up), donations, and so on. I'm damned near up to the mountain of tapes stacked across my front room wall, but I just need to count them (for a tax write off later) and DONATE them! My dear son will be assembling my 2nd set of wire shelves tomorrow morning. Then I can clear my sideboards, put those things on my new shelves, and finish up the mystery boxes in the kitchen, most of which were things of my daughter that she abandoned here in 2008. I'm PROBABLY going to purchase my new furniture tomorrow, too. I have to get it done since those pieces aren't being produced anymore, and I don't want to have to begin my shopping again.
And the solar/patio roof/fencing/paving stones PROJECT has been postponed for approx. 10-12 months while I get bids for it all and line my ducks up in a row. I also want to attempt to save up another bunch of money in that time since I now believe that it's going to take a bundle to achieve the results I want. IT'S A HUGE PROJECT I'm biting off!! I need to be really READY for it. I feel like I'm diving into deep waters with sharks. Thank God for my carpenter/builder cousin and his wife!! I'm hoping that they can guide me through this due to his extensive experience with being a contractor and builder and her positive attitude and friendship.
I did find a fellow up north of me that can and will build my fence that I want. It is SO PRETTY, and my heart is set on it. It's wood with a curved metal insert. It should look wonderful. I'll be taking pictures of the front of my house tomorrow and texting it to him along with the pictures of the fence that I want. This is actually fun, but I have to get the INSIDE of my house done first. I've got to settle down and be patient...
I'm also getting into my garden again, thanks to cousin L (R's wife). She called me "AMAZING" when I described what I do out there!! I plan to make it extra special nice this year, not just for me, but for them (all the cousins) as well! I end up with so many rare varieties of tomatoes, squash, peppers, fruit from my trees, and she said that they love all of it. It sort of gives me a purpose in life.
I'm really doing great! I'm losing weight on a strict Keto diet, and that really helps my mobility. The more weight I lose, the easier it is to get around, so I am doing more and more activity, which helps me lose more weight, and so on. Nice how that works!
Bless him! This will be quite an adjustment for him, too. Let me know when you get the backyard "playground" for him and how he likes it. I hope you are happy there, too. How are things going for you so far?
All my dogs are fine but Ms. T. She appears to have CCD (Doggie Alzheimer's) and possibly blindness - just not her old peppy, feisty self, runs into things, her legs give out on her, and she seems VERY confused! I'm feeding her soft food every morning and evening with ¼t. MCT coconut oil on it, giving LOTS of pets and love, and she's thriving as much as she can. Sad to see her like this. She has served my family so well ever since she was 8 wks. old, so I'm happy to help her out now.