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I had some very happy and exciting news earlier this week. A promotion at work to a position I never, ever thought I would get. I have been overwhelmed with people's responses- colleagues and friends (and colleagues who are friends) have said to me not just the usual platitude of 'congrats' but lots and lots of people have been telling me 'you deserve this' I have been surprised at this, but I think I believe it! The term has only ever been associated with the bad stuff that happened to me - I was programmed to believe I deserved the abuse. With this exciting new role comes me reclaiming the phrase. I've worked damn hard on myself and as a professional and I do deserve it! I'm excited for the future.
I didn't dare think I might get it but made a bit of a deal with myself that if I did get the job I would quit smoking. I managed to stop 6 years ago but when I was leaving the cult my therapist dragged me I to I started up again. Well I've not smoked since I got the job at the beginning of the week. That's very early days but I'm feeling positive!
Dreams do come true
I understand the feeling and physical shudder with the words "you deserve it". It is nice when life gives you the chance to redeem and reclaim the same words for that which you actually do deserve. I think self kindness is one of the unexpected hard places in recovery. So do your happy dance and practice random acts of SELF-kindness.
Shine wrote:With this exciting new role comes me reclaiming the phrase. I've worked damn hard on myself and as a professional and I do deserve it! I'm excited for the future.
Lovely to see these replies thank you Had a bit of a wobble these past couple of weeks but coming though that. Sometimes it is almost as hard to deal with the positive as the negative for me. Two months no smoking this week despite the wobble!
I have been surprised at this, but I think I believe it! The term has only ever been associated with the bad stuff that happened to me - I was programmed to believe I deserved the abuse. With this exciting new role comes me reclaiming the phrase. I've worked damn hard on myself and as a professional and I do deserve it! I'm excited for the future.
Well done you!
