What my new life will look like

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Homebrand
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What my new life will look like

Post by Homebrand » Thu Jun 14, 2018 2:32 am

I wrote this for myself the other night and I'm gonna read it on good days and bad days. I want it to remind me why I need to stay away no matter what he tries to do how much fear I go through in my recovery from his abuse.

WHAT I CAN HAVE IN MY LIFE WITHOUT (ABUSER)

I CAN GO TO UNIVERSITY
I CAN HAVE DEEP CONVERSATIONS WITH OTHERS
I CAN BE KIND AND BE WITH KIND PEOPLE
I CAN GET MY LICENSE AND A CAR AND TRAVEL ANYWHERE
I CAN LAUGH AND BE HAPPY
I WILL HAVE TRUE FREEDOM
I CAN CHOOSE MY OWN FRIENDS
I CAN RELAX WHEN IM AROUND PEOPLE AND BE MYSELF
I CAN STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE I DON’T LIKE
I DONT HAVE TO ASK PERMISSION FOR ANYTHING
I DONT HAVE TO FEEL ANXIOUS IN MY OWN HOUSE
I WONT BE YELLED AT EVERY DAY OVER NOTHING
I DONT HAVE TO BE SCARED OF VIOLENCE
I CAN TEACH MY KIDS RIGHT FROM WRONG
I WILL NEVER FEEL LIKE A HOSTAGE OR PRISONER
I DONT HAVE TO PRETEND IM OKAY WITH APPALLING COMMENTS, ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIOURS
I CAN SAY HOW I FEEL AND PEOPLE WILL LISTEN
I WILL HAVE ALL MY BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS BACK
I DONT HAVE TO HAVE CRIME AND BULLYING AROUND ME
I CAN LEARN ITS OKAY TO HAVE FRIENDS THAT ARE MALE
I CAN KICK TOXIC PEOPLE OUT OF MY LIFE STRAIGHT AWAY
I CAN GET A JOB AND SOCIALISE WITH MY WORKMATES
I CAN GO OUT WHENEVER I WANT AND DONT HAVE TO TELL SOMEONE EVERY SINGLE THING IM DOING
I WILL EVENTUALLY LEARN TO BE EXCITED AGAIN WHEN MY PHONE RINGS INSTEAD OF ANXIOUS OR ANGRY
I WILL BE AROUND PEOPLE THAT HAVE COMMON INTERESTS AS ME
I WONT BE ISOLATED FROM THE WORLD
I CAN SPEND MY MONEY HOWEVER I WANT
I WILL HAVE A VOICE AND PEOPLE WILL RESPECT IT
I WILL HAVE RESPECT FROM EVERYONE I ASSOCIATE WITH
I WONT HAVE PEOPLE WHO ARE MANIPULATIVE IN MY LIFE
MY MENTAL HEALTH WILL BEGIN TO RECOVER AND PEOPLE IN MY LIFE WILL SEE ME AS HAVING A HEALTHY MIND AND BALANCED EMOTIONS
I WILL NOT SUFFER EXTREME ANGER TOWARDS PEOPLE BECAUSE THOSE AROUND ME WILL TREAT ME WELL
I WILL HEAL AND LEARN TO TRUST PEOPLE AGAIN
IF I EVER ENTER ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP IN THE FUTURE MY PARTNER WILL BE KIND, CARING AND RESPECTFUL LIKE ME
SEX WILL NOT BE A CHORE THAT I FORCE MYSELF TO DO
I WONT HAVE TO LISTEN TO AN ADULT HAVING TEMPER TANTRUMS OR RAGES EVERY DAY

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Re: What my new life will look like

Post by thecatsmeow » Sat Jun 16, 2018 7:56 pm

Hi Homebrand, This is a great list of things you can achieve in your recovery, hope it all goes well 🙂
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Re: What my new life will look like

Post by Xanthia » Thu Aug 23, 2018 9:44 pm

Hi Homebrand

Fantastic list. A couple of months on, I trust you have taken steps to make some of these points a reality.

Wishing you very well in all respects.
Xanthia

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Re: What my new life will look like

Post by there » Sun Aug 26, 2018 1:05 am

Homebrand,
It's great that you have such a clear and concrete vision for your life!
"Love yourself, for no one can be closer or spend more time with you...Remain aware, for you are now new." Corita Kent, artist

"I used to be abused. Now I'm just amused."

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