Urgent advice for a friend

[Jitterbug]

Hello all.

Sorry to have been so absent of late. That is another story, but I send my ongoing love and support to all my dear friends here.

Can anyone help please?:

UK (preferably) support/guidance needed for a friend who has 4 children by a narcissistic & coercively controlling ex husband.

He has systematically alienated her from her eldest son (she has had no contact at all for more than 2 years now), is now losing the 2nd son (wants to live with father & brother & refusing to come home), her 3rd (only 7) has contact with father and is headed the same way, but is angry and confused and her 4th, (daughter), she is withholding all contact with father after she disclosed a sexual incident. This, as you can imagine is being used against her with the other 3 children.

Social services, Cafcass, family court, police, individual interventions have all failed her - due mainly to his manipulation, hands being tied, her word against his, inexperience or lack of expertise within court system locally and in the case of social services, incompetence. Withholding the boys has not been an option they run away to their father.

She is broken. Truly devastated. Can anyone steer me to specialist help/support. She desperately needs to fight against this. Has been through the helpful services of SAFE & Splitz, but this has now gone beyond their remit. We are in a part of the country which is low on expertise in this area and specialist services are non existent.

Any help or advice, please...

Jitterbug

[facingmytruth]

Women's aid are a good sorce of support for both mother and children, hope this helps

[earthhorse]

Hi Jitterbug,

I'm not in the right region to help. But just wanted you to know I was delighted to see your name.

Love, EH

[Jitterbug]

Thank you facingmytruth and EH. Only just seen your replies. So sorry to have left you hanging.

facingmytruth - yes, Women's Aid a great resource, thank you!

Earthhorse - so lovely to see your name too. Thank you. That meant a lot.

Warm hugs to you both, if OK?

Jitterbug