saw T today
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saw T today
saw T today. We talked about our sister who died. wish she was here to talk to
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Re: saw T today
Tajiri,
I'm not sure that I know your story. But I can relate to the loss you are feeling. My sister passed away just 5 weeks ago. I miss her terribly. Share more if it helps.
iwillthrive
I'm not sure that I know your story. But I can relate to the loss you are feeling. My sister passed away just 5 weeks ago. I miss her terribly. Share more if it helps.
iwillthrive
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Loss is so, so hard. Sitting with you and listening if you'd like to say more.
Sending lots of caring to you both, Tajiri and iwillthrive.
Ashia
Sending lots of caring to you both, Tajiri and iwillthrive.
Ashia
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Hi Tajiri, iwillthrive,
Hear your loss, grief.
Glad you could share with T, Tajiri.
If wanted, sending safe soft hugs.
With care,
Hear your loss, grief.
Glad you could share with T, Tajiri.
If wanted, sending safe soft hugs.
With care,
Xanthia
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Tajiri,
That was very brave to share your grief. Can you say more about your sister?
quixote
That was very brave to share your grief. Can you say more about your sister?
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my sister was killed by our abuser
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Hi Tajirl,
I am so sorry that your sister was killed - especially hard when at the hands of your/her abuser.
My heart aches for you and I have tears.
Leaving hugs,
I am so sorry that your sister was killed - especially hard when at the hands of your/her abuser.
My heart aches for you and I have tears.
Leaving hugs,
Xanthia
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Tajiri,
Reading your words took my breath away. I can't imagine your pain. My heart aches for you. I find myself speechless. Just know that I'm here and thinking of you. Share more if it helps.
Sending safe hugs and a quiet safe space to just be if needed and wanted.
iwillthrive
Reading your words took my breath away. I can't imagine your pain. My heart aches for you. I find myself speechless. Just know that I'm here and thinking of you. Share more if it helps.
Sending safe hugs and a quiet safe space to just be if needed and wanted.
iwillthrive
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I was never allowed to grieve for her until now. T opened up a new avenue that allows this to happen. It is important to go through the process. She has allowed me to be angry without feeling guilty. We were 6 years old when this happened; many years have passed. I miss her as much today as I did 55 years ago...a long time, I know. I am getting to a point where I can allow myself to celebrate her life and the time we had.
In reflection, it is like we all feel about our abuse. We can be angry with our abusers, our families, and toward the people that couldn't or wouldn't protect us; and we can do this without guilt...and we can celebrate our lives. This is what I am working through and learning.
A year ago I was devastated when my previous T retired and I still miss him, however; new T is marvelous and she came along just when fate dictated. My old T was passionate, however reserved, the way I needed him to be; he was respectful of my personal space. New T is also passionate, however; she is more compassionate. She sits by us and the collective is okay with this. She holds our hand when we talk about the sister and we feel safe, and it is good.
tajiri
In reflection, it is like we all feel about our abuse. We can be angry with our abusers, our families, and toward the people that couldn't or wouldn't protect us; and we can do this without guilt...and we can celebrate our lives. This is what I am working through and learning.
A year ago I was devastated when my previous T retired and I still miss him, however; new T is marvelous and she came along just when fate dictated. My old T was passionate, however reserved, the way I needed him to be; he was respectful of my personal space. New T is also passionate, however; she is more compassionate. She sits by us and the collective is okay with this. She holds our hand when we talk about the sister and we feel safe, and it is good.
tajiri
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Dear Tajeri
Standing in awe of your progress and healing. You all have come so far. Honoring your loss and grief.
With compassion and understanding
Harmony
Standing in awe of your progress and healing. You all have come so far. Honoring your loss and grief.
With compassion and understanding
Harmony